This
has been a long time coming. Still sitting on my ledge watching the game and
the players in it. All I can do is shake my damn head at what I’ve been seeing.
I’m still not impressed with the whole “RELATIONSHIP” thing I hear so much
about. Honestly, I’m so damn confused with all the stuff I’ve saw, heard and
thought a relationship was supposed to be about that I just don’t want to have
anything to do with one right now.
Before
I even get into this, if the shoe fits wear it. If it doesn’t and you get upset
about this, then you probably need a bigger size shoe or a better prescription
for your mental glasses.
*deep
breath*
I
can’t remember when I wrote about the Current State of Relationships but it’s
still MUTHA fucked up to the max. I mean, it’s just plain flat out right coo
coo for cocoa puffs. Mugs are too damn selfish for one, too greedy, too proud,
too uneducated, too unrealistic, too nuts, too much baggage, just too fucked up
in the head to stop and think about it for a minute.
Seriously,
don’t you want stability in a relationship? Ain’t stability something like
knowing where you stand? Something like job security? Well, the rules in a
relationship aren’t in stone or something that was written and documented in
some book back in B.C. times. Just because your Grandparents were married for
60 years don’t mean you will be. It also doesn’t mean that’s how “long” a
relationship will last. Were you there for those 60 years that your
Grandparents were married? I mean, were you like a fly on the wall and saw what
really was going on in their marriage? Probably not, that’s where the
uneducated and unrealistic part comes in. NEVER judge a book be its cover. This
is 2011(2012), we don’t live one lane lives like they did back then. They did
what they were told, we do what we want.
Back
to stability, I got a good one for you ladies and gentleman that like stability
so much. From what I’ve experienced, haha, this is the part where mugs will
start to get upset with me. (if they even read this) Stability is like a
constant. Like when someone tells you “where you stand”. That label gives you
that stability you want. Answer this, how can you want stability but yet be
unstable within yourself? Example, friends with benefits, someone tells you
they are content with being your friend with benefits. To me that sounds like
everything is cool but weeks later, usually in a month or so, they all of
sudden flip the script. Now they aren’t content anymore. NOW that stability is
gone. They want more and start giving ultimatums or acting funny as hell. Where’s
that stability that you want so bad yet can’t give? Greed, selfishness and
ungrateful plays a big role in this situation. Why does a label make someone feel so
stable when there aren’t any rules in stone?
Boy
I tell ya.
I’m
not even done yet. We are all selfish
but there are different levels to it. You want what you want and that’s what
you look for in people to determine if you want more or if you even want to
keep dealing with someone. Ain’t that how it works? As soon as someone stops
giving you what you want, you dip. I’ve saw it so many times. I’ve even been
belittled. Called gay, lame, “what a flake“, etc. What the hell does “flake”
mean anyway. Who wants to be with someone that always wants to have it their
way or nothing? As soon as you stop giving, they leave?
If
you can’t handle being friends with someone, it’s not possible to handle being
in a relationship with that person either. That’s kind of general but that’s
how I see it. I believe in friends first and if you don’t have that friendship
going into a relationship, what will you have?? Probably a damn mess sooner or
later.
What’s
up with all these people not having shit but wanting someone that has something
going for themselves? They are trying to get someone to take care of them so
they can sit on their stanking ass. If I wanted to take care of someone, I’d
have kids. Not a lazy ass adult.
For
those that misunderstand me and for some reason, get my words all twisted up. I’m
not against relationships, I’m just not feeling the people out here fucking the
game up when it comes to relationships. I believe that relationships can work. I
just don’t believe that the stuff I’ve mentioned that I’ve saw others doing
will make a relationship work. I don’t want to be accepted because you don’t
have anything or anyone else. I don’t want your company cause you’re lonely. I
want people around me that WANT to be around me because they like who I am and
like being around me. I’m patient when it comes to this relationship shit. I
know that when you first start hanging around someone, it’s usually exciting
and that I should wait to see where it should go because I don’t have enough to
go off of. I also know that our past relationships say a lot about us as an
individual now. Example, a chick tells you that her past relationships were
abusive and she was cheated on many times but stayed in the relationship until
they either couldn’t stand it or he left. That’s not a good sign. Just because
you left that bad situation that you put up with for years doesn’t mean your
head is in the right place now. Step ya game up.
Stop
putting yourselves in situations that you know you can’t handle like fucking
someone without confirming they are interested in you for a relationship.
Situations like catching feelings for someone that is already in a
relationship. Stop pressuring people to do what you want them to do, that shit’s
a turn off. Stop telling me how you feel about me then cutting me off like it’s
nothing. Leave me the hell alone about the whole relationship shit. When it’s
my time to get in one, I will if that‘s what I feel like doing. For your info,
I haven’t passed up shit and/or missed shit. I could care less about ex
relationships and people that have left my life. If I am “supposed to be” with
someone that ain’t here, it WILL HAPPEN when it’s time. Not because I want it
or because you say so. You can’t force a square piece into an oval slot, we
learned that in pre-school.
*exhale*
To
be continued…
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