I Was Warned pt 1

Back in the Myspace days, at one point, there was a big deal about who was on your friendlist. I can’t lie, I remember having a moment or two about a friend’s list and how come I got move off it. I finally got used to how things worked on a person’s friendlist. Maybe it wasn’t even that, maybe it was that I realized people could do what they wanted to do with their profile. I had my on page to run.

I started to notice how some people had their friendlist private. First thing came to my mind was, that’s is playa, why else would you hide your friends? Then someone brought it to my attention of why it was a good idea to not have a friendlist. I was basically told, when it comes to females, they will be snooping and causing problems. It’s better to just nip it in the bud and not have one. Obviously it wasn’t only females tripping but in my case, I couldn’t see a male worrying about my friendlist unless his woman on there. I started to hear about other reason why someone would hide their list.

I was like, naw, I’m leaving my friendlist up. I wasn’t trying to hide who I was down with. There was no reason for anyone to think anything in my eyes. I never said anything but I know there were some folks hiding the friendlist cause they didn’t want mugs to know what was up. Once again, it was their page and they could do whatever they choose with it.

As the years went by, I started to hear stuff like, “why ain’t I on your top friends?”. “Why do you have so many females on your top list or as friends?”. “Why is “so and so” your friend?” Just jealously type remarks. It bothered me sometimes because I couldn’t feel where they were coming from if it’s my list, why wouldn’t I put who I wanted to on it? And what made you feel you should be on my list because we talk?

Since then, there’s no top list but there still is a friendlist on Fakebook. I still get the same remarks especially about how many females are on it. Sheeiit, I’ve even been deleted because someone didn’t like a friend on my list. Probably block and why? Times have changed since Myspace and I have changed. WHY do people, mostly females, point out that I have so many females on my friendlist? Why do people point out how many females comment on my statuses? What’s the problem especially if it has nothing to do with you? When you post a status, there is a comment section. When you say anything on Fakebook, you are opening up to the door for a response. At the same time, I guess as long as you’re on Fakebook, you’re opening up the door to many things. Which that will be my part two of this.

I guess my point to this is that people don’t need to worry about who’s on my page if they don’t know what’s really going on? Some things might appear suspect but a big majority of my friends on Fakebook came from Myspace blogging. As a blogger and the folks that experienced the Myspace blog world, we know that shit can get weird than a mug, real quick. If you weren’t a part of that or even a part of the Fakebook groups of today, you are basically like I was when I first started blogging and interacting with people: clueless to how things work around here.