My Own Definition

I never could define friend. I mean, it’s a very general relationship and everyone has their own opinion of what a friend is.

I put some thought into it a little while back based off of what I don’t think a friend is and this is what I came up with.

A friend: having companionship with someone who accepts you for who you are.

There’s also a lot of factors in my definition that I haven‘t figured out how to add in yet. One of the most important factors in a friendship is chemistry.

Sheeeiit, who am I kidding, chemistry IS the key factor in a friend. Before, I would’ve said that if there wasn’t any chemistry, it wouldn’t work. There is always chemistry whether it works or not. Chemistry is what the friendship is made up of.

I’ve used the word “friend” very loosely and not everyone that I say is a friend is my “friend”. Honestly, probably more than 75% of the people I say is my friend really aren’t. I say that because not very many people that I call a friend, accepts me for who I am. It’s kind of sad but true.

It’s not about what you can gain or how much a person is there for you. It’s not about being a yes man or if you are on time. To me, that’s more of the bonuses and some factors that I haven’t figured out yet.

I’m selfish but semi generous on the humble tip. I’ve been told that I “lack compassion”. That’s interesting because it bothers me to see or hear that a parent (s) neglect their children. I like watching cartoons. I stay rooting for the Boston Celtics until their season is over then I say, they will do it next year. I’d rather look forward to eating whatever sweets I took to work for my lunch than to think about the fact that I’m work. I’m turned off by many things anymore and I’ll bit my tongue to keep from hurting feelings at times. I understand that there are many ways to go about something at times. I’m single by choice and my reasons are my own. I play the background because I feel I learn more by watching and listening then to be the one in front doing all the talking. I’m not as complicated as Alpha Algebra or not as simple as 1,2,3 but this is me.

We learned in Elementary school and maybe even in Head Start that no one is the same. Similar but not the same. We have to learn how to deal with that and accept others because NO ONE IS YOU. You don’t even have to accept a person but if you want people in your life, you will have to.

Anymore, being someone’s friend has become difficult due to the high levels of the 7 Deadly Sins.(I don’t know if I said that right?) I don’t know maybe I’m tripping but if you can’t be a person’s friend(my definition) then how can you be more or even want more from that person?

What is your definition of a friend? Do you have any friends?